Workplace Psychology: Good Skills Teach You To Quell Your Anger.

Anger is a normal human emotion and a strong emotion.

If you vent your anger, you can seriously damage your relationships and hurt your professional reputation.

But if we completely suppress anger, it may turn into internal problems, leading to high blood pressure, depression or passive resistance.

When confronted with difficult conversations, make sure to breathe deeply and evenly from the diaphragm.

Imagine breathing from the center of your body.

Speak to yourself and slowly repeat something like "relax and keep calm".

You can also close your eyes for a few seconds, imagine a relaxing picture, something that makes you calm or happy.

When you speak, slow down, do not interrupt, and carefully consider what you are saying.

If nervous

More and more serious, consider stopping the discussion first and wait for the two sides to calm down and come back to start again.

As time goes on, you will become more objective and the problem will be clearer in your mind.

When you are full of anger, you can easily send out a worded e-mail or send a few desks to rebuke them.

But it's the best way to take a moment to think about what to do.

Bad emotions should not actually be sent by e-mail: because it is very different in email, because it is very reasonable to speak face to face or on the phone, and it will be misinterpreted.

So arrange a time to talk about it and if possible, talk face-to-face.

If you find yourself angry with someone, or become the object of their anger, take a moment to consider from the other side's perspective.

Everyone has their own difficulties and pressures.

Maybe he is dealing with a very tight time limit. There is a boss who asks a lot of people, or some personal problems at home.

When you can regard the other side as a mistake.

Like you, in your efforts to complete the day's work, you will be more likely to calm down and find common ground to start solving problems.

Listen carefully before responding, and use phrases like "I understand" to show that you are willing to understand their views.

Don't use strong tone or insulting remarks, and avoid using words like "always" and "never".

They may be inaccurate and will weaken your point of view.

Another useful technique is "mirror technology". When you speak, repeat other words or phrases, not interfere with them, but show that you are listening and understanding them.

Finally, don't be angry with others.

Don't say, "when you...

When I was really bored, I said, "when you...

I feel sad at that time.

If someone yelled at you or

Please try to remember that this is not really aimed at you.

You are irresponsible to anyone who has nothing to do with you, and you can not control their behavior.

You can only control your reactions to their actions.

If someone attacks you, counterattack will only make things worse.

Calmly reacting, or not responding at all and rejecting the anger of "supplying" others can make it burn out faster, like a fire that loses oxygen.

Learn to recognize what makes you angry.

It may be people, situations or tasks that make people bloodshot, so find out what is the cause and find alternative ways to solve them.

For example, you may find that you are depressed on the way to work every day and unhappy at the beginning of the day.

Then look for different solutions: find a different route, drive by yourself instead of public pport or vice versa.

Or you may find that every time you have to prepare a specific report, you turn blue.

Seek different and more effective ways to complete work, seek help or see if others can or are more suitable for this task.

Finally, find a healthy outlet for anger.

Try to do some yoga exercises or meditation routines that can calm you down.

Allow yourself to release depression in a positive way, so that anger will not accumulate in your body or burst out in a bad way.